I am just 20 and he is 22, I am one year away from graduating college. We have been dating for 2 years now and in that time has accumulated about $120k in debt(student loan,auto loan). He did not pass a single one of his classes he took the loan for so he could go full-time, has not contributed financially to our living expenses (rent, food, utilities, etc.) for virtually the entire time we have been together. He cheated on me once about a year ago but i forgave and he swore he’d never do it again. I am due with a baby girl august 29 and plan to still go to school full-time this fall and need him to be home to watch her so i can go to class – i don’t want to put her in daycare. He is a really nice guy and we do have some great times together. I just am thinking about the baby and if he’d be able to be a good father and all that and I’m not sure what to do. I want her to have a father but I’m not sure I can depend on him to be the man he needs to be to support the family.
I just go back and forth between really wanting to be with him and really wanting him out of my life. I just can’t seem to settle on one end of the spectrum.
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If you are having doubts about your relationship there is a good chance it will only get worse, thats how it seems to always end up. A baby isn’t a reason to stay with someone, they aren’t the answer to fix a relationship either. Your babies father doesn’t seem very dependable, and what if he is watching the baby and doesn’t pay attention and something goes wrong. It might be hard to raise a kid alone, but it might be in your babies best interest. He doesn’t have to be out of his/her life completly either. If he shapes up, than maybe things can work out. Sit him down tell whats going to happen if he doesn’t get his act together, and stick to it.